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Holiday Hours

As the Papa, I have certain prerogatives. Some of them are weighty, like making sure my children fully understand the gospel, and that they learn to love God. Others are more whimsical, like my gleeful tradition of throwing a glass of cold water over the shower curtain, onto any of my children who take a shower in my bathroom.

You can see that these children are sorely in need of a cold glass of water in the midst of their showers.

You can see that these children are sorely in need of a cold glass of water in the midst of their showers.

But this time of year, there is only one prerogative that matters: I (and only I) have the authority to declare the beginning of ‘Holiday Hours’.

Don’t get me wrong — we do lots of things to celebrate Christmas. We start listening to Christmas carols as early as the first of November, some years. Kathy’s passion for all things Advent sometimes threatens to eclipse the actual day of Christmas, entirely.

But there is a moment when school and work are finished, and when the real fun begins, and it is based on my work schedule. For the children, it means that bedtime constraints (never very strict in our household, anyway) are relaxed, and that we begin to seriously address ourselves to the fun of being a family. We play more games, we watch more movies, we bake more cookies and we generally enjoy each other in a deeper and more significant way.

Some of my favorite girls, at the Scrooge play.

Some of my favorite girls, at the Scrooge play.

Last night, we had our Scrooge party, and attended the excellent musical of that name at a nearby church. When we got home, I gathered the kids into our family room for an extemporaneous Family Meeting.

“I have an announcement,” I said, gravely, standing to my feet.

“Uh-oh,” Daniel flinched. Sometimes, my announcements are not very welcome.

I raised both arms and loudly declaimed: “HOLIDAY HOURS!”

And so, the fun begins.

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Zero Fun, Sir!

One of my favorite Football movie quotes is from Remember the Titans, in which the new coach (played by Denzel Washington) is haranguing the team. One of the football players is clowning around, and Coach Boone singles him out:

Petey Jones: [has hand raised for a high-five and is smiling]
Coach Boone: Put your hand down.
[Petey does as told]
Coach Boone: You’re smiling.
Petey Jones: Yes.
Coach Boone: Yes, sir. Why are you smiling?
Petey Jones: ‘Cause I love football. Football is fun.
Coach Boone: Fun, sir? It’s fun?
Petey Jones: Yes.
Coach Boone: You sure?
Petey Jones: I think…
Coach Boone: Now you’re thinkin’. First you smile, then you thinkin’. You think football is still fun?
Petey Jones: Uh, yes.
Coach Boone: Sir.
Petey Jones: Yes- no, sir.
Coach Boone: No?
Petey Jones: Um, it was fun.
Coach Boone: Not anymore though, is it? *Is* it?
Petey Jones: Not right now, no.
Coach Boone: No, it’s not fun anymore. Not even a little bit.
Petey Jones: Uh… no.
Coach Boone: Make up your mind. Think since you’re thinking. Go on, think. Is it fun?
Petey Jones: No, sir.
Coach Boone: No? Absolutely not?
Petey Jones: Zero fun, sir.
Coach Boone: [addresses team] All right, listen up! I’m Coach Boone. I’m gonna tell you about how much… fun you’re gonna have this season.

Mustering all my authority (as pater familias), I instructed my children, many of whom are now off from school. Like Coach Boone, I radiate authority and am generally obeyed without question.

Well, most of the time.

OK, once, I was obeyed without question, sometime in 2003. I’m pretty sure.

“Now, you understand that Sarah and David and I are not on Christmas break, yet. We all have school and work until Friday, and until we are off, there will be no fun whatsoever. No fun until Friday evening.” I waved my index finger sternly.

Zero fun, Sir!

Zero fun, Sir!

Naturally, they all took my words to heart, and are NOT playing games, watching movies, drinking egg-nog, and generally being festive.

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Home for Christmas

Strange things are happening in our household this weekend. Joshua and Rachel are home from college, and Mamie (Kathy’s Mom) is visiting us for a few weeks. When my parents stopped by for a quick visit, we all rushed out to the front of the house for a family picture.

A passel of Edgrens (and one Moore).

A passel of Edgrens (and one Moore). Not sure what happened to Daniel.

It is quite a change for us, transitioning from a quiet, relatively empty house to chaos and bursting at the seams. I am surprised at how much it fills my heart with joy, to have the older kids back home.

My favorite five children, typically silly.

My favorite five children, typically silly.

And of course, it is always great to have Mamie here with us. We always wish she would stay longer; I suppose she finds that our chaos is better in small doses.

Hooray for Mamie!

Hooray for Mamie!

We have them only for a few weeks, then Mamie heads back to Michigan, and Rachel back to school for January Term. Joshua will stay for most of January; a nice change from last summer, when he was in Turkey most of the time.

Kathy and I are grappling with being parents of grown children — they think they can rush off and have their own lives, how rude! I guess the secret is to make the most of the time we have, so I will cherish these next few weeks.

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Power Outage

High winds swept through our area today, and we lost power around 6 pm. 

So I went shopping, and Kathy took David and Sarah to a school concert, while Daniel stayed home in the dark, staring sadly at his blank computer screen.

When I eventually returned home, I found the house blazing with at least 20 candles, and the family huddled around the kitchen table, playing games. 

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Daniel had to check one of the more obscure Munchkin rules ...

“Finally, we are a family,” Sarah announced firmly.

Who knew it needed a power outage and some games to transform us!

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A Few Words of Thanks

Looking over the pictures on my phone, I began to smile at all the ways that God has blessed our family this Fall. He is so good to us, and we do not return thanks as often as I would like. Here are a few of the things for which I am thankful, this morning:

Seven new windows on the ground floor of our home make it much less drafty and cold.

Seven new windows on the ground floor of our home make it much less drafty and cold.

No longer do we sit on the living room couch and feel a cold breeze. Thank you, God, for giving us the resources to afford new windows, and a good friend who was willing to install them for a great price!

Lunch together (sans Joshua and Rachel, away at college) at our favorite Thai restaurant for my birthday.  A little more than a year ago, I was facing kidney cancer, and didn't know if I would HAVE another birthday.  Thank you, God, for another year of life!

Lunch together (sans Joshua and Rachel, away at college) at our favorite Thai restaurant for my birthday.

A little more than a year ago, I was facing kidney cancer, and I didn’t know if I would HAVE another birthday. Thank you, God, for letting me discover the cancer in time, for a successful surgery, and for another year of life!

Our backyard fence fell apart, and I promised Kathy I would repair it 'this summer'.  As the November rains set in, it is still only about 2/3 finished.  But I'm thankful for the cheerful and willing help of my youngest son, who blesses us with his willing service.

Our backyard fence fell apart, and I promised Kathy I would repair it ‘this summer’.

As the November rains set in, it is still only about 2/3 finished. But I’m thankful for the cheerful and willing help of my youngest son, who blesses us with his diligent service. Thank you, God, for the character and wisdom you have given David, so that he almost always volunteers when work needs to be done!

A recent 'Redwall Feast' for David and Sarah's English class through Potter's School.  Thank you, God, for homeschooling friends to encourage us, and for a State in which we are allowed to homeschool our children!

A recent ‘Redwall Feast’ for David and Sarah’s English class through Potter’s School.

Thank you, God, for homeschooling friends to encourage us, and for a State in which we are allowed to homeschool our children!

Three days a week, I am allowed to work from home, in spite of the fact that the VP of our organization is firmly against any kind of telecommuting.  Thank you, God, for a boss who graciously allows me to work from home so much!

This IS my actual building; in fact, if I stood on top of my desk, you could probably see my head through one of the fifth-floor windows.

Three days a week, I am allowed to work from home, instead of commuting 2 hours (each way) to work at this campus. Thank you, God, for a boss who graciously allows me to work from home so much, even though the bosses above him are firmly against any kind of telecommuting.

Sarah helped me dig this trench in the pouring rain.

Sarah and David helped me dig this trench in the pouring rain.

For what seems like years, I’ve been trying to get reliable internet service working in the main lodge of The Refuge. Finally, we bought 500′ of Cat 6 network cable and routed it across the ground (with a switch in the middle to avoid loss of signal). This meant crossing two roads, so I dug trenches and laid the cable in conduit, with the help of my two youngest. Thank you, God, that we finally got the internet service working!

Daniel chooses good friends, and shares them generously with his brother.

Daniel chooses good friends, and shares them generously with his brother.

We’ve seen a lot of Daniel’s friend, James, this year, even though he lives 30 minutes away. Thank you, God, for answering our prayers and giving Daniel a loyal friend, and for making Daniel into a good friend himself.

Even though they are both kind of weird, these cats are a lot of fun.

Even though they are both kind of weird, these cats are a lot of fun.

Yesterday, I was sitting on the couch and Marco (pictured above, left, the fuzzier of the two cats) came and sat on my lap in an unusual display of friendliness. Misty and Marco are not the most affectionate of cats, but they do actually bring a lot of joy into our lives. Thank you, God, for these two rascally cats!

Union University (where Joshua and Rachel are, this Fall) has been very kind and generous to both my kids.

Union University (where Joshua and Rachel are, this Fall) has been very kind and generous to both my kids.

In August, I had the chance to finally visit the UU campus, and meet some of the professors. I was astounded by the way that the faculty and staff have created a college that strives for academic excellence while also fostering a warm, spiritual atmosphere. I am so proud of Joshua and Rachel for their hard work and for choosing a university that so effectively honors Jesus and puts Him first. Thank you, God, for my wise oldest children, and for Union University’s generosity to our family.

My heart is full of thanks, today, as I look forward to a holiday season that sometimes forgets God.

Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love,
for his wondrous works to the children of man! Psalm 107:8

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