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Terrific Thirteen

I must admit, our family really likes to celebrate. I knew when I married Kathy that it was part of the deal — she absolutely loves to start traditions that build our joy as a family. And of course, if you do something twice, it becomes a tradition …

This weekend was no exception. With Valentines’ Day on Friday and David’s 13th birthday on Sunday, it seemed a good time to have a party. Kathy reserved a room at our church and invited a bunch of David’s friends (and their families, who happen to also be our friends), and started making pizzas.

There is nothing quite as tasty as Kathy's homemade pizza ... except maybe another piece of her pizza ...

There is nothing quite as tasty as Kathy’s homemade pizza … except maybe another piece of her pizza …

Kathy’s pizzas are awesome. She called me on the way home from homeschool co-op, to ask my advice.

“Shall we just buy five-dollar pizzas from Little Caesar’s?” she asked.

“Um, your pizza is way better,” I suggested. “Maybe I could help you, and we could make a bunch?” My renown as a sous chef in the kitchen is legendary.

Round up the usual suspects ... and have a Birthday Party!

Round up the usual suspects … and have a Birthday Party!

Kathy’s Nana has a great all-purpose bread recipe called Mesa Manna, which Kathy uses for the pizza crust. Her Mom built on that by adding a mix of italian sausage to her hamburger pizzas, which is a real crowd-pleaser. Adding to that pizza-making heritage, we use barbecue sauce and make Hawaiian pizzas (ham and pineapple) which are usually the first to be eaten.

For the party itself, we came up with the idea of Olympic games, since the Winter Olympics are going on in Sochi now. Three of the games made the cut: Speed skating, curling, and bobsledding.

Sarah, the bobsledding champion from Great Britain's Winter Olympic team.

Sarah, the bobsledding champion from Great Britain’s Winter Olympic team.

It was a little tricky to simulate these events in our church fellowship hall, but we managed. We awarded gold, silver and bronze medals for the winners of each event, with prizes for everyone who participated.

Personally, I prefer Oreos, Reeses' cups, and M&M's, but there are some who enjoy the gummi bears.

Personally, I prefer Oreos, Reeses’ cups, and M&M’s, but there are some who enjoy the gummi bears.

Ice cream sundaes rounded out any calories that were lacking from the pizza lunch, with toppings galore for every possible appetite. David opened his presents and was generally celebrated in high style by our many gracious friends.

David and his birthday posse.

David and his birthday posse.

When Daniel turned thirteen, Rachel and Joshua told him that thirteen was actually just a practice year before becoming an actual teenager. He is a trusting soul, and spent the year correcting friends who thought otherwise. Lately, I’ve been hearing them tell David the same thing. With the word ‘teenager’ having such a negative connotation in our society, I’m hesitant to call him by that label, lest I ruin all their earnest effort.

Teenager or not, I’m so very thankful for David William, born just after midnight, in the middle of a snowstorm, thirteen years ago. Thank you, Lord, for adding him to our family!

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Exasperating Snow Day

Here in Washington, we mostly keep snow on the mountains (where it belongs). But since we don’t actually live on a mountain, this is a very unpopular policy with the younger set.

This message brought to you by Hallmark, er, Sarah.

This message brought to you by Hallmark, er, Sarah.

Some years, a whole winter can go by without any decent snow accumulation. I’m sure this winter, there are many from the East and Midwest who would gladly trade places with us. Snow seems to be one of those things that fall in to the ‘feast or famine’ category — you either don’t get enough, or you receive a surfeit. Also, when we do finally get some snow, it often falls on a Sunday morning, when we are in church. It is not unusual for it all to melt away by the time we get home.

David and Sarah are huge fans of the snow. Whenever we get a few flakes, they run outside and try to catch them on their tongues, giddy with the excitement. This morning, they were outside at 8 am, making a snowman.

We're not as cool as Zach and Angie, who built one last night at 10 pm.

We’re not as cool as Angie and Zach, who built one last night at 10 pm.

Last night the snow started around 6 pm, and by 11 we had about 2 inches. About 10 pm, Daniel called his buddy, Jake, and soon they had a plan.

“May I go over to Jake’s house to play in the snow?” he asked me. Jake has a big hill on his street.

“Sure,” I told him. “But I’m not driving you. It is pretty late … ”

Stubbornness runs deep in our blood, from both sides of the family. Failing to persuade Rachel to drive him (her car was slipping all over the road) Daniel walked almost 2 miles to his friend’s house.

“Be home before midnight,” I told him, knowing he’d barely have time to get there and back.

At 11:45, he called me. “Um, it took me longer to get here than I thought … can I spend the night here?”

This is our actual Daniel.

This is our actual Daniel.

Daniel is a very honest boy. We don’t always get along perfectly, but it is a delight to me that he will rarely lie when asked a direct question. “This is all part of your scam, to spend the night at Jake’s,” I accused. He had been wanting to spend the night at his friend’s house for several days, but I had refused permission, because Daniel is still sick.

“No, but it is pretty cold, and I’m pretty tired … ”

I tried to believe him. “Come on home, stop arguing with me.” I reiterated. Relenting a millimeter, I continued. “If you take too long, I’ll come out and look for you.”

Did I mention that stubbornness is part of our family’s genetic makeup? I decided that if he wanted to make the decision to walk 2 miles in the snow at 10:30 pm to spend 15 minutes sledding with a friend, he might as well pay the full price of that decision. We try not to always rescue our children from the consequences of their choices.

At 12:30 am, he still wasn’t home. I got in my little Honda, and slithered my way over to his friend’s neighborhood (but not down their steep hill). No Daniel. Coming home, I found him on an alternate street, less than halfway home.

“You didn’t get very far,” I remarked as he tossed his sled into the back seat.

One of these is not like the others ...

One of these is not like the others …

I found out later he would rather have walked all the way home — the snow was very peaceful. Parenting a sixteen-year-old is tricky, and being parented by a 48-year-old is even trickier. I always find it challenging, to avoid exasperating my children.

Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. — Ephesians 6:4

I am thankful for a son who continues to submit himself to my authority, even though he is sixteen, and six foot three. I often make him angry, yet he does not defy my authority.

When I was sixteen, I was a much more rebellious and difficult boy. I routinely disobeyed my parents and spoke very disrespectfully to them. I used to joke that my parents were praying for justice, all those years, and that I was finally getting my fair due — but Daniel is actually a much better son to me than I was to my parents. Daniel and I are working out our relationship as father and son, both of us making it up as we go along. I am so thankful for him.

Tim

Several of these pictures were brought to you by David, with his swanky new camera.

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Does Normal = Taking For Granted

Where has the week gone? Tim has been fighting a cough since last Saturday, so he’s definitely not feeling well. He pretty much put all his energy into his job and then AWANA on Wednesday night. The rest of the time he slept or relaxed (movies and computer games feature prominently during these times – neither require conversation. Ha).

I managed to pass the time this week with the usual demands of life – homeschooling, housework, prayer and coffee with some special friends, errands, Bible study, homeschool co-op. Nothing terribly unusual or noteworthy.

Kathi and Becca never fail to encourage and bless me!

Kathi and Becca never fail to encourage and bless me!

The children also enjoyed a fairly normal week – work at Black Bear for Rachel, lots of school for everyone, various homework assignments, papers and tests, AWANA, co-op, workouts at the fitness center, the occasional Ultimate Frisbee game, sleepovers. Again, nothing unusual.

David knows how to make life fun.

David knows how to make life fun.

In the midst of it all, I began to wonder if we realize what a blessing it is that this is our normal. That we live in a FREE country. That we can get together with friends and pray in the middle of Starbucks. That we are able to school at home. That Tim telecommutes several days a week and is home with us the rest of the time. That we can Skype friends and family 1000′s of miles away. That we go to a church that preaches from the Bible. That we have every store/market we could want within 25 minutes of our house. That our pantry, cupboards, closets and dresser drawers are full, and we want for so little.

Friends since they were preschoolers - Daniel is saving for a trip to visit Zach in Thailand this summer.

Friends since they were preschoolers – Daniel is saving for a trip to visit Zach in Thailand this summer.

And so much more.

I am humbled.
I am embarrassed at my petty grumblings.
I am ashamed at how I take the extravagant riches of my “normal life” for granted.

This beautiful girl is one of my greatest treasures.

This beautiful girl is one of my greatest treasures.

And once I again I am reminded that everything I have is from the Lord – my gifts, talents, possessions, my children, my husband, my very life and breath.

And I open my hands before Him. Hands that hold tightly to “things” and are quick to make idols of them.

And I breathe out a sacred prayer and pledge to be a good and faithful steward of all of these treasures and talents. I surrender (once again) my life and all that it entails to the One from whom every good and perfect gift comes.

God's Word is like a sword - it pierces me with its truth and conviction.

God’s Word is like a sword – it pierces me with its truth and conviction.

Kathy

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Sunshine or School – not a fair choice

When the grey weather breaks, it is almost impossible to resist the draw of some outside fun. If the sunshine is accompanied by a Facebook post or a little text message that goes something like this:

3 pm at the park – who’s in?

School is pretty much doomed from then out. Math isn’t finished? Too bad. More reading to do? Nope. We’ve got vitamin D to absorb and friends to visit.

We convinced the boys to climb down from the rocks and join us.

We convinced the boys to climb down from the rocks and join us.

The boys climb up on the rocks while the girls sit in the sand visiting.

The boys climb up on the rocks while the girls sit in the sand visiting.

Growing up in Michigan, I am continually amazed at Washington state’s winter weather. Yes, the rain and clouds can seem to hang on for days (okay weeks), but then there are times when the sun breaks through and the temperatures soar (okay drift) into park friendly numbers.

Sweet friendship between these two!

Sweet friendship between these two!

I try to tell the kids, “No, summer is not coming. For that matter, spring isn’t really coming. It’s January. We are in the middle of winter. It could snow.”

Any chance to play Frisbee is a good day in Daniel's book.

Any chance to play Frisbee is a good day in Daniel’s book.

Oh dear. That’s the wrong thing to say. These children, you know the ones who DIDN’T grow up in midwestern or northeastern winter wonderlands, eyes fill with hope and excitement.

“You mean, it could still snow?” They can think of nothing better than the idea of some good snow storms hitting Washington. Hours of sledding. No school. Lots of hot cocoa.

Love friends who are up for last minute outings.

Friends are truly one of God’s greatest blessing in my life.

As for me, I’m sorry my snow-deprived children, I’ll take the mild WA temps any day. And I know we’ll catch up on school tomorrow. :)

Kathy

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Pro Life

Today is Sanctity of Life Sunday, so it seems appropriate that I am thankful for life. Thank you, Mom and Dad, for wanting me and raising me to adulthood. Thank you, Kathy, for carrying and birthing my five children, and for helping me to raise them!

I love these kids, every last one of them, with not even a couple of exceptions.

I love these kids, every last one of them, with not even a couple of exceptions.

I’m also thankful for a church that unabashedly preaches that abortion is sin, and yet offers a hand of help for Moms with unexpected (and maybe unwanted) babies, and healing for those who seek to repent from this terrible ‘choice’. Pastor Reg did a nice job of talking about how being pro-life also affects our attitude toward slavery, human trafficking, and others who cannot adequately defend themselves (like the handicapped).

Before the sermon began, the chairman of our board of elders stood up and told the congregation that this message expressed the position of our church, and was not just the opinion of the preacher. I really appreciated that — I like to see some steel in defending the doctrines of the church against the political correctness of our culture.

More than fifty million unborn Americans have been aborted murdered since Roe v. Wade. This is a death toll worse than the the atrocities of Stalin, worse than Hitler’s holocaust by a long shot.

One of my favorite local organizations that helps single moms and encourages them not to abort their babies is Care-Net. In past years we have helped to outfit their store with dozens of newborn and small baby clothing items — there was an Oshkosh B’gosh outlet near my office, and I used to snap up a lot of their bargains. Care-Net offers free pregnancy tests and ultrasound technician training, but they also address the long-term care of the baby through parenting classes and other resources. Sadly the outlet closed — I need to find another source of baby clothes. I really like the image of a scared new mom shopping in Care-Net’s store and walking away with clothes that reflect God’s love and support for both the mom and her new little son or daughter.

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