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Holding on to Christmas

When January comes, and everyone goes back to work or school, there is a tendency to move on from Christmas. Trees and wreaths dry up and begin to lose their needles; you need to clear them out if you don’t want pine needles to be still turning up in your carpet when your grandchildren have grandchildren.

Some people feel like they can’t really get started with the new year (with its new resolutions, diets, and fresh starts) if they leave all the Christmas decorations hanging around until Valentines’ Day. So pretty much every house on our street has taken down (or at least turned off) their Christmas lights.

Every house except ours.

You can see Daniel and David on the porch, if you squint, and use your imagination.

You can see Daniel and David on the porch, if you squint, and use your imagination.

Well, actually, there are two other houses on our street that still have lights. One is right next door, which makes me smile. Maybe houses are like people, and they prefer not to stand alone against social pressure.

Even the garage is festooned with lights and bows.

Even the garage is festooned with lights and bows.

This year, Kathy went all-out in lighting the porch and the bushes. She picked up a few of those pretty star-lights at a garage sale this past summer, and I think the house looked very festive. So I am feeling a bit stubborn about allowing the lights to be taken down — after all, who says you have to stop celebrating Christmas in January?

I really like the red bows and the star lights.

I really like the red bows and the star lights.

We have a fake tree (which makes Joshua sad), so we don’t even have to worry about the needles. There is something about coming down the stairs in the dark of the morning, and seeing the lights shining on the tree, with all our red, blue and gold decorations gleaming happily — it warms a deep, quiet place in my heart that remembers all those Christmas trees of past Christmases.

I think many of us wish we could recapture the special way we felt about Christmas when we were young children, and we’re always disappointed that we cannot ever really experience the full range of that innocent wonder. I suppose we can’t feel that way anymore because we are jaded by disappointments and the slow attrition of the years on our souls. Having a Christmas tree shine a few extra days (or weeks) is my way of resisting that hardening of the heart. And yes, I’m still listening to Christmas carols on Pandora as I write this blog post.

Sooner or later, Kathy’s love for variety will kick in, and she’ll insist we take down the tree and the outside lights. But until then, Christmas still reigns.

It may be a fake tree, but I still love it.

It may be a fake tree, but I still love it.

One of my favorite Christmas movies is A Christmas Carol (I prefer the version with Patrick Stewart, but I don’t mind watching any of the other six renditions that we have). I have always aspired to be like Ebenezer Scrooge in his redeemed form, and this quote about him is what I would like people to think or say about me:

His own heart laughed and that was quite enough for him. And it was always said of him that he knew how to keep Christmas well if any man alive possessed the knowledge.

Project 365, Day 17
Tim

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Holiday Hours

As the Papa, I have certain prerogatives. Some of them are weighty, like making sure my children fully understand the gospel, and that they learn to love God. Others are more whimsical, like my gleeful tradition of throwing a glass of cold water over the shower curtain, onto any of my children who take a shower in my bathroom.

You can see that these children are sorely in need of a cold glass of water in the midst of their showers.

You can see that these children are sorely in need of a cold glass of water in the midst of their showers.

But this time of year, there is only one prerogative that matters: I (and only I) have the authority to declare the beginning of ‘Holiday Hours’.

Don’t get me wrong — we do lots of things to celebrate Christmas. We start listening to Christmas carols as early as the first of November, some years. Kathy’s passion for all things Advent sometimes threatens to eclipse the actual day of Christmas, entirely.

But there is a moment when school and work are finished, and when the real fun begins, and it is based on my work schedule. For the children, it means that bedtime constraints (never very strict in our household, anyway) are relaxed, and that we begin to seriously address ourselves to the fun of being a family. We play more games, we watch more movies, we bake more cookies and we generally enjoy each other in a deeper and more significant way.

Some of my favorite girls, at the Scrooge play.

Some of my favorite girls, at the Scrooge play.

Last night, we had our Scrooge party, and attended the excellent musical of that name at a nearby church. When we got home, I gathered the kids into our family room for an extemporaneous Family Meeting.

“I have an announcement,” I said, gravely, standing to my feet.

“Uh-oh,” Daniel flinched. Sometimes, my announcements are not very welcome.

I raised both arms and loudly declaimed: “HOLIDAY HOURS!”

And so, the fun begins.

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Zero Fun, Sir!

One of my favorite Football movie quotes is from Remember the Titans, in which the new coach (played by Denzel Washington) is haranguing the team. One of the football players is clowning around, and Coach Boone singles him out:

Petey Jones: [has hand raised for a high-five and is smiling]
Coach Boone: Put your hand down.
[Petey does as told]
Coach Boone: You’re smiling.
Petey Jones: Yes.
Coach Boone: Yes, sir. Why are you smiling?
Petey Jones: ‘Cause I love football. Football is fun.
Coach Boone: Fun, sir? It’s fun?
Petey Jones: Yes.
Coach Boone: You sure?
Petey Jones: I think…
Coach Boone: Now you’re thinkin’. First you smile, then you thinkin’. You think football is still fun?
Petey Jones: Uh, yes.
Coach Boone: Sir.
Petey Jones: Yes- no, sir.
Coach Boone: No?
Petey Jones: Um, it was fun.
Coach Boone: Not anymore though, is it? *Is* it?
Petey Jones: Not right now, no.
Coach Boone: No, it’s not fun anymore. Not even a little bit.
Petey Jones: Uh… no.
Coach Boone: Make up your mind. Think since you’re thinking. Go on, think. Is it fun?
Petey Jones: No, sir.
Coach Boone: No? Absolutely not?
Petey Jones: Zero fun, sir.
Coach Boone: [addresses team] All right, listen up! I’m Coach Boone. I’m gonna tell you about how much… fun you’re gonna have this season.

Mustering all my authority (as pater familias), I instructed my children, many of whom are now off from school. Like Coach Boone, I radiate authority and am generally obeyed without question.

Well, most of the time.

OK, once, I was obeyed without question, sometime in 2003. I’m pretty sure.

“Now, you understand that Sarah and David and I are not on Christmas break, yet. We all have school and work until Friday, and until we are off, there will be no fun whatsoever. No fun until Friday evening.” I waved my index finger sternly.

Zero fun, Sir!

Zero fun, Sir!

Naturally, they all took my words to heart, and are NOT playing games, watching movies, drinking egg-nog, and generally being festive.

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Home for Christmas

Strange things are happening in our household this weekend. Joshua and Rachel are home from college, and Mamie (Kathy’s Mom) is visiting us for a few weeks. When my parents stopped by for a quick visit, we all rushed out to the front of the house for a family picture.

A passel of Edgrens (and one Moore).

A passel of Edgrens (and one Moore). Not sure what happened to Daniel.

It is quite a change for us, transitioning from a quiet, relatively empty house to chaos and bursting at the seams. I am surprised at how much it fills my heart with joy, to have the older kids back home.

My favorite five children, typically silly.

My favorite five children, typically silly.

And of course, it is always great to have Mamie here with us. We always wish she would stay longer; I suppose she finds that our chaos is better in small doses.

Hooray for Mamie!

Hooray for Mamie!

We have them only for a few weeks, then Mamie heads back to Michigan, and Rachel back to school for January Term. Joshua will stay for most of January; a nice change from last summer, when he was in Turkey most of the time.

Kathy and I are grappling with being parents of grown children — they think they can rush off and have their own lives, how rude! I guess the secret is to make the most of the time we have, so I will cherish these next few weeks.

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Holiday hours!

One of my favorite traditions is the beginning of a holiday weekend. Whenever I am off from work (today I was released at 3 pm, because of the Labor Day weekend) I stand near the front door and shout, “Holiday Hours!”

This means different things, to different people. In general, it means that the usual rules and restraints of everyday life (homeschooling, working, etc.) are removed, and we permit ourselves a few days of sheer festive fun.

Hopefully Joshua and Rachel (at school in Tennessee) can have their own version of Holiday Hours, even while we are apart.

Kathy's in the midst of a decluttering project, but took time to help Sarah with her baking.

Kathy’s in the midst of a decluttering project, but took time to help Sarah with her baking.

When we lived in Michigan, I worked for Ford, and they shut down for Christmas. One of my happiest memories is the beginning of a long, two-week vacation just before Christmas. I would walk in the front door, shout “Holiday Hours”, and the fun of the Christmas season would begin in earnest, not to end until after New Years’ Day.

Sarah's donut holes are sure to be a hit wherever we go, this weekend.

Sarah’s donut holes are sure to be a hit wherever we go, this weekend.

It wouldn’t be a holiday if some of the dietary restraints were also thrown off. Of course, we pay for it later …

David revels in free, un-metered computer game playing (ordinarily we use a timer and poker chips which must be earned).

David revels in free, un-metered computer game playing (ordinarily we use a timer and poker chips which must be earned).

It is supposed to rain a fair bit this weekend, but we’re not worried, as long as we still have lots of computer games to play. Daniel just finished installing Civilization V, so maybe we can get into a multi-player game this weekend.

It is possible that we 'forgot' to notify  Daniel about Holiday Hours until he finished his yard work.

It is possible that we ‘forgot’ to notify Daniel about Holiday Hours until he finished his yard work.

We are very blessed to enjoy time off from our regular routine — thank you, Lord Jesus, for holidays!

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